Counselling is what’s known as a talking therapy and helps you to resolve emotional, psychological and relationship issues. It’s hard to describe counselling because it’s such a personal and uniquely therapeutic process to each individual.
There are as many reasons for seeking counselling as there are people. You do not need an exact reason to see a counsellor and there isn’t necessarily a precise time in which to begin. It really depends on your personal circumstances.
You may not be feeling at peace with yourself or you’re overwhelmed by anxiety at home or stress at work. Perhaps your relationships are problematic. You might be deeply frustrated and stuck in a seemingly perpetual rut. Are you chronically indecisive or prone to making self-defeating decisions?
When you are unable to talk with anyone who understands and you have reached a point when you need to be listened to, it might be time for you to find a professional counsellor.
You will know when it’s right when you feel ready to change something important in your life even if you’re unsure what that is or how to change it. That may be the beginning of living a life that’s truer to yourself or unburdening yourself of the emotional baggage that you’ve been carrying around.
A counsellor will provide a safe and confidential environment and offer respect, empathy and understanding while encouraging you to talk about what’s bothering you. Over time, the counselling relationship ideally becomes a working alliance between client and counsellor that’s based on mutual trust, respect and honesty.
Within this unique relationship, you will explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours and identify specific areas that cause you difficulty. A qualified counsellor will listen, encourage and empathize. He/she may challenge you to see the blind spots in your life, adopt a new relationship with troubling events in your personal history or find coping strategies to better deal with your present problems.
A counsellor is not an advisor who’s going to tell you what to do and how to do it but he/she will work with you to reconcile the things that cause your disturbance.
Counselling takes place in a series of formal sessions at a regular time and place agreed by the counsellor and client.
If you believe that you would benefit from a course of counselling, please read Doug’s profile.